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  12. Posted

    On 22/1/2024 at 9:50 AM, Osaid said:

    It's not a teaching. You can literally become aware of exactly what your experience is, permanently. It is awareness of what your experience is, just like being aware of sound or sight or taste. There is an objective experiential shift that can happen where you become aware of this. It is not a teaching or a claim or an insight or anything intellectual. I am telling you that I became aware of something in my experience, and that this is the exact same awareness that non-duality, Buddhism, and all the other enlightened teachers before me have been pointing to. They are all pointing to the same thing, and they have been for centuries. Leo has not become aware of what they have been pointing to and he has tricked himself into thinking that he has somehow transcended it or found something more true through psychedelics. There is not a single enlightened person out there who agrees with Leo, and there is a very good reason for that.

    Yeah I’ve had no dual experiences, none of what you’re saying is new stuff, especially on this forum, and has been covered in Actualized.org videos for years 

  13. Posted

    14 hours ago, Osaid said:

    Spot on assessment from TimeIsMe:

    I know there are people who think that Leo has somehow reached a more advanced or transcendent level of enlightenment through psychedelic use, but no such thing really exists, it is just an intellectual trap. He has still not realized what "God" or "enlightenment" or "no self" is, however, he has traversed exotic states of consciousness which he conflates with God or truth. That is basically all you will get with psychedelics. His entire view of reality conflicts with basic non-duality, but he probably doesn't even believe non-duality to be the case anymore.

    How do you guys make claims like this, surely this is some kind of Buddhist/traditionalist dogma. 
     

    I have no idea whether or not Leo has reached the levels of consciousness he has claimed to, let alone which one is Enlightenment or God, but his trip reports are pretty exotic indeed, and some more significant to him than others. 

    Is your claim that “basic non duality” is the one chief teaching? 

  14. Posted

    I have been living in Melbourne Australia for the last 2 years, moved home recently to a smaller town about an hour away.

    i have been bitching and moaning for the past 2 years about how ‘woke’ Melbourne is, and how they can’t integrate any views outside what shows up on people’s TikTok feed. People in Melbourne are obsessed with their sexuality, their pronouns, will jump on any bandwagon that sounds remotely progressive. 
     

    I realise now how much I took this for granted, it is so rare to have a culture that it predominantly stage green. Where I moved home to is predominantly blue and orange. I realise this is actually a symptom of a culture having its base necessities, and a culture of people growing up in supportive households. 

  15. Posted

    A lot of the advice you get on this forum for stuff like this isn’t really based in experience, you can get a lot of good theoretical ideas no doubt. 

    I would recommend dropping 4-5k on like an Owen Cook course or anybody you genuinely resonate with, you can generally find one or two people in mastermind groups like this who are actually successful on social media and can give you grounded advice. 

  18. Posted

    On 1/7/2024 at 10:30 PM, BlueOak said:

    This is a very good point.

    It sounds highly determinist. 
    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Determinism
    Are you the kind of person that dislikes random chance? Gambling for example, or playing a game that has a % chance to do something.

    It could be classed as arbitrary to do so over a group without knowing the group individually more. Unless there is an end goal you are trying to achieve and can articulate that. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arbitrariness

    You are under no obligation to be friends with your girlfriend's friends, but also I would dedicate a certain amount of time to each before I could conclude that about all of them. If your girlfriend is pressuring you to be friends with her friends, that's not healthy either. You are not dating her friends, you are dating her. Set a clear boundary. A relationship is already complicated enough without relating to 5 other people for it to function. Maybe she needs reassurance that you will never get in the way of their friendship, or seek to interfere in her personal life, and the same should apply to you, you decide who your friends are. I don't know her, you know her better than I do, this is just one possible way forward.

    If they did cocaine it's certainly a red flag for me. That is a substance that is reckless to use. I would let my girlfriend know that, and if she said well that's only this girl that does it. Then I might avoid that particular friend, in young social groups I used to find there wasn't more than one or two that were into drugs socially or pushing for their use. I want to distinguish it from some of the substances people do here on this forum. I don't use drugs, but I understand them to be more beneficial and less addictive than cocaine which can lead to people making stupid decisions or taking stupid actions.

    Young women in groups are not the same as young women on their own, when you get to know them individually. Thusly I would never try to date 'a group of young women' as part of the relationship, because that sounds like a nightmare.

    I appreciate the initial question - basically each issue I have with her friends I reflect in my own behavior in some way. I am noticing my hypocrisy but I don't really know what to do with it. 

    This boundary of "I'm dating you and not your friends" doesn't really work. That's my recent experience at least; it's too big a statement to make to her, in a way its telling her I don't trust her judgment of people. Also to a feminine woman her social circle is literally the most important thing to her in life, and I'm like "meh, I don't like it", it's like kicking over a kids Lego creation. 

    One of my female acquaintances who is married told me after committing to her husband she lost like 3 friends, so perhaps if I stuck it out and just loved her through everything, everything would even out. But like I'm in my 20s, I don't know if that's the best move right now.  

  20. Posted

    We broke up because eventually she would need to choose between me and her friends. I want to be a healthy, self-employed, artistic person, her friends wanted to throw parties and occasionally do cocaine. 
    As soon as I started spending time with them I knew I wouldn’t be friends with them.

    My girlfriend noticed this and raised it as an issue, and said her friends were like her family and I was doing the “bare minimum” if I just chose to spend time with her and not her friends. And described me drawing that boundary as ‘abrupt’, and that I don’t know her friends. 
     

    I really like this description. I’ve spent lots of time with lots of different people, and as soon as I see a red flag from a new person I want to be really good as weeding them from my life. Could this go wrong for me? 
    I am a genuinely accepting and compassionate person, if a homeless person asks for a coffee I will buy one for them, have a conversation with them, listen to them. I often reach out to childhood friends that are struggling with intense addiction (in rehab for heroin, meth addiction) and check how they’re going. I just won’t let these people into my intimate circle. 

  22. Posted

    8 hours ago, Galyna said:

    Right, she will drink coffee and will go home. I mean what a normal woman would want to sleep with a stranger or a guy she barely knows? Unless, she is a desperate loner and never been with a good guy. For woman to desire a sexual connection she must be in love. I am talking about normal healthy high value women here.

    I lost my virginity to a professional violinist I met on the street. I invited her to get a drink on the spot and she took me back to her hotel after. 

    I think she had sex with me because she felt like doing so.