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  3. Posted

    1 minute ago, SFRL said:

    The most straight shot answer is get involved in Pick-up and or online dating. 

    The flip side on that that is that it can easily set you up for a streak of dysfunctional serial monogamous relationships. 

    Not that there is necesairly anything wrong with that, but nothing can distract you from your purpose and excellence then women. 

    Recently I have bought into a new mindset: Pursue excellence not women. 

    When you get really good at what you do you will see the effects in your life. You will have a great passionate life that draws in women. 

    The only drawback is that to get to that level of excellence it takes years to get there. 

    But ideally you find a girl just being out and about doing your thing and she is insanely attracted to you and you both have a great chemistry and understanding of each other. But that is very rare. But more likely when you are excellent at what you do. 

    Things are not completely black and white though. Having experience dating several women until then can build you up to that moment. 

    So short-term strategy would be go do pick-up and online dating. I guess it should be called a tactic then. For now.

    Long term strategy is to pursue excellence not women. 

    I think I'm going to try and get that rare relationship. If it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't ,it doesn't. Ultimately, I still have to go through this phase, so I might as well try my luck and find that special someone.

    You are right in the long-term strategy. It's better for women to be attracted to me, rather than me trying to actually make them to attract me. I have to remind myself that excellence will happen and everything will eventually come. This is a nice insight. 

    Nevertheless, I will just try and search for the rare relationship. Either way, I'm going to experience pain and I guess it's pain I need to experience.

    thanks

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    @SFRL Oh yeah, you'e 100% right, she isn't coming back but I'm not too bothered by that anymore. I've been down that road but I can say that she's gone and i've completly accepted. 

    This really does sound like me. My life is going pretty well I guess, I'm starting to understand myself a lot more, getting confident, and seeing places. So you'e right... I want to share and just love. 

    So what do you think I should do right now? I guess this is something I need to pursue and explore. 

  7. Posted · Edited by B_Naz

    10 minutes ago, SFRL said:

    @B_Naz have you had a girlfriend before?

    Yep, and only one girlfriend ever. See, I never really felt like I needed a girlfriend, but NOW, it's on another level. These past weeks I have gone crazy over wanting a girlfriend but this "need" has been going on for about a year now.

    My Ex coming back would be amazing. She was actually great, and I was a prick, so she broke up with me. 

  8. Posted

    @SFRL Really? Is this just a horny motive? Because that is definitely true. Most of the time, I'm inside but when I do go out, I look at women and that's where sadness/loneliness comes in. But that's the thing... Why does loneliness comes in?

    I feel like I can give so much love to a woman, but why the do I want to? Why do I want to talk to a girl, and do everything for her? This is where the dilemna is coming from.

    I can just masturbate and the hornyness is gone, but this is a different feeling. It's mainly feelings of lonely

  9. Posted

    Been about 2 weeks of self-enquiry on this topic and I've seen some insights. But ultimately, there is no clear answer within me. Is it coz I'm just out there to fuck? Is it because I'm lonely and need some social interactions? Is it because when I go outside, I look at asses? Do I need somebody to talk to? It's stating to get frustrating because I'm constantly reminded.

    Any suggestions on why relationships (sexual) are wanted? Like, what could be the most common reason for me wanting a girlfriend?

  10. Posted

    10 hours ago, herghly said:

    @B_Naz Thanks, How long do you sit and visualise for ?

    I use to do 5 mins straight after my meditation, I always did it in the morning because I find that the visualisation affected on what I did during the day.

    Dude you have this! You can get everything you ever want! Think of life as a game. Think HUGE. Think MILLIONS. Nothing is stopping you, and that's fact. Nobody forces you to do anything but yourself!

    I really want you to succeed man, and you will!

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    Even if you day it for 30 days, that's still impressive. I think you need to carry on with those 30 days until it becomes a habit

    Your mind tells you a lot of things that is bullshit. The key is to just drop it, like when you're holding your arm up and then dropping your arm down. Don't stop or resist but drop and detach and carry on with it.

    Visualise really big as well and not like I want a nice house but a fucking tower with my name on it, that will make it a lot easier. Also, what helps me sometimes is reminding myself that it's possible to achieve my dreams, the only thing stopping me is the mind. Hold that belief because it's actually true. LITERALLY, nothing is stopping you. Nobody has a gun to your head forcing you to do things. Everything is done by you. NOTHING but YOURSELF.

    Realise that your mind is holding you back. Perhaps look at different videos about your mind. Start thinking positively ! 

  16. Posted

    2 hours ago, okulele said:

    I just watched an interview with Jan Essman, a shaktipat master. He mentioned that earlier in his meditations he would get what he called "unconscious samadhi". He described it just as you do. There would be just nothing, but he was sure he wasn't sleeping.

    I'm not even sure If I am sleeping or not, but it does feel like I am though. 

     

    1 hour ago, PsiloPutty said:

    You're not nodding off or anything? No jerking yourself upright from time to time? If you can be sure that it's not sleep, I think it sounds like a huge deal!

    Yeah, I don't jerk myself up, I just get into my start position and just go on from there. See, I don't know if it is sleep or not. But I think it is sleeping, but the main issue is, am I just sleeping? Is this something I have to correct or should I go with it :/ 

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    So recently, I've had some weird experiences when meditating.

    So when I meditate, I tend to lose track of time and then... Lose everything? I'm not thinking, I'm not doing anything, I'm letting everything go and when this happens, I lose track of everything. I feel like I've lost in time, but then I come back and I'm all okay. I have a "what the fuck did I even do" moment. Then I feel guilty because I feel like I just wasted time? I probably shouldn't feel like this but I think this guilt comes from sleeping?

    I'm worried that this is happening because I'm just tired and fall asleep. Lately I've been extremely tired, but I do keep a upright position so I try not to fall asleep.

    The guilt comes because I think I've just fallen asleep?

    Is this me just going to sleep, or is there something significant here?

  19. Posted · Edited by B_Naz

    @Arkandeus That's good. You want something  that isn't actually egoistic like being a better kisser :P,  and I think the thing you want is neutrality. A better word is joyful? This is natural, and is something you should be determined to do! Question the levels of satisfaction. You can be satisfied by just being joyful of what you have currently, even if it's dead :) 

  22. Posted

    I think you're addicted to activities that give you pleasure. As you said earlier, Youtube videos is exciting and enjoyable for you, so you prefer to do that than studying. This could mean that you're addicted to pleasure and want immediate gratification, and so studying is not a pleasurable activity for you

    So I say find something in studying that is enjoyable, the same enjoyment you do with Youtube videos or any other activity you enjoy. I think you see studying as more of a chore, and you probably realise that this view causes tension.

    The fact that it's a chore and something you hate is something based on your view of studying. If you see studying as something you don't like and hate, of course you will resist. Self-actualization can be seen as a study, so why do you not hate studying this?

    Try and do some self-inquire on why you're not enjoying it. So like... Is it too easy? Too hard? Won't ever need this in my career? This is all bullshit? Try and ask yourself these questions. Rather than inquiring resistance, inquire about why you're not finding this enjoyable like watching movies?

    To really create habits, I think you just have to clear your mind and stop thinking about "what to do" and just do it. Be a robot

  23. Posted · Edited by B_Naz

    7 hours ago, sarapr said:

    Have you experienced thoughts as sensations happing in the body and not in the skull? 

    Not really. This insight just came to me when I was meditating. I felt detachment from the thoughts and felt whole. I also didn't feel my body until I put a thought onto it, like "Am I feeling my arms?". It's kinda freaky

    It wasn't even a feeling of wholeness to be honest. It's something I can't explain