B_Naz

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  1. Posted

    Nothing is wrong with you. It's good your asking these questions, and you need to deeper. What is purpose? How do I get fulfillment and why? Or even deeper, the fuck is fulfillment? Do I exist? But try not to get depressed about these topics, and if you do, take a break. The truth is harsh and scary, but you will overcome it as you get used to it.

    If you want purpose, then make it :P 

    Goodluck

  2. Posted · Edited by B_Naz
    Grammar

    Well you need money to actually live, so I say commit to it. But it seems to me you're not earning money for your egoistic needs but earning money so you can do those retreats and not actually die from starvation, lol

    Self-actualization requires you to be safe, this also includes financially. Seen by the bottom of the triangle below

    Maslow_pyramid.png

    Don't "try" to find the balance. Find the balance. Then when you retire, you can do whatever you want.

  4. Posted

    Why don't you just be aware of the ego? Don't fall for the traps for it. Do what you want. But simply beware and analyse the needs you want perhaps? The ego isn't the evil thing that we need to stay away from. I mean, it's best to but when somebody is starting off or even 5-10 years into self-actualization, it can be hard to just become egoless. The best practice I do to stop falling for traps is just becoming aware of the ego. I still do the stuff that is egoistic, but I am fully aware (or try to be at least :P).

    Goodluck

  7. Posted

    Life isn't hard, you are just making it hard. Notice the word "you". There is no "you", it isn't like suicide since there was no "you" to suicide with in the first place. Your ego/identity (the you) is making life to be this extremely hardship, harsh and even happy place, when it isn't. Life is neutral. Life isn't the ego.

    If you feel like you want to belong or be something, be the universe, because that is what you are. You're not your ego, you are infinite and everything.

  8. Posted

    @7thLetter Very nicely explained. I did lack details out with the higher/lower consciousness mindsets, my bad. As a newbie, it can be hard to remove those distractions but only a newbie believes that self-actualization is a luxury. It's an actual need, to stimulate our mind and become more than humans... We don't improve ourselves for our own egoistic gains but because we're trying to stop our ego! Anyways, you are correct in saying that. We should be mindful of the actions rather than resist it. Once we're mindful, then we can control our lives

  9. Posted · Edited by B_Naz
    Forgot to say how it changed my life :P

    I think it's also important to not do actions that are distractions, so TV, social media, news media, porn, capitalism, consumerism, stuff like that. It's great that you're doing all of self-actualization, but beware of the actions that are distractions to your self-actualization as well and Self enquiry them. Why am I following this TV series, why am I on social media, why do I like porn or materialism? Be with the distraction and feel it, and beware of what you're literally doing. Link those actions to your ego and identity. Mindfulness on the actions that causes distractions, like a chimp in a zoo and you're the scientist observing the chimp. Commit 100%, everyday is self-actualization.

    How has this changed my life? Well I am doing more stuff that is stimulating, and become more aware of human nature. Instead of watching TV, I am reading and learning

  11. Posted · Edited by B_Naz
    Extra info

    17 minutes ago, Staples said:

    @B_Naz Is sleep egoistic because you feel tired?

    Is eating egoistic because you feel hungry?

    That's it, you're right. In my pursuit of no-ego, I will no longer sleep, eat or meditate. That would be selfish. ^_^^_^

    Haha, it does seem a bit silly when you phase it like that but it's something to think about. I, by all means, do not want to stop meditating or any personal work. But the reason is so I can be, and not to benefit or expect a return :P. It's what I learned from this post, to be even more aware of manipulation 

  12. Posted

    6 minutes ago, ajasatya said:

    @B_Naz if "me" is what comes to the mind during meditation, it just means that there's still illusion.

    I've learned an important lesson. Because I've just noticed how easily the practice can be manipulated to benefit the "me". If it benefits the "me", then it's the illusion, just like you said.

  14. Posted

    The best way I forget about the past is to hold the belief that the past doesn't exist and what exists  is the present. The past and the future are only concepts, but the *now*, the reality, the experience right now is real. I also hold the belief that past is robbing your energy, in your case the emotional pain is draining your energy. But all of this can be stopped, and remember that too. This emotional baggage can be lifted from the past.

    Use the past to better yourself and to avoid making mistakes. Don't think about the negativity that past bought but the positively  it can bring to you. So I try to find that positively  or the learning from the past :P. So once that emotion or the thought of the past comes up, quickly try to think about what good came of it. E.g. if you break up with somebody, think about the other opportunities you can have with different people and find even a better person! This should ease the emotional pain.

    If the past comes up, the ultimate way to remove is to let go. *past comes up* - Oh fuck, it's here, I need to let go, forget about it, it doesn't exist, I have learned and I am now one with the now. If the thought keeps coming up, then the past is harder to let go. Remember, the past is only a memory, it doesn't exist, and the best way to forget a memory is to never think about it.

    This can be hard, so I advise finding a hobby or activity. Keep yourself busy so your mind will be off the past.

    Good luck, much love!

  15. Posted

    52 minutes ago, veqsms said:

    That is instinct to self survive. A person is going to do anything just to survive, so if meditation is supposed to help us ( e.g mental health, emotional health etc) it is ego.

    nevermind that is the reason i started it either.

    So yeah, it's egoistic. We need to stay clear minded, be aware of ourselves, and become one with the Truth. It's something we need to work on hard. Nothing makes sense, but go with it :P 

  16. Posted

    3 minutes ago, ZZZZ said:

    Like @Nahm said above, perhaps the meditation gives you a temporary clarity/higher level of consciousness that allows you to clear your mind and drop the anxiety associated with your exams (that you are mustering up on your own). Your reasoning for doing so may be rooted in ego, but I do not see why you should view all meditation in this way. The positive habit has obviously beneffited you in some way... No need to worry further :) 

    You are right. I mean, it is only one meditation session when this really hit me, so it can't be applied to the entire practice. Just need to make sure I'm on the right path :D 

  17. Posted

    Just now, zoey101 said:

    I don't think using tools that you have learned to help you survive through daily life is wrong. I mean, yeah we are supposed to live selflessly, but we also have a life in the "ego world" to make it through. Anxiety is pretty common nowadays and I can't help but feel like if you found something to calm you then stick with it. 

    You can say that those tools are helping you close off the ego world as well. But I don't know, I have this weird feeling that meditating to control anything in my life is deeply rooted in ego... I should just flow, so perhaps meditating for those specific purposes (anxiety and stuff) is a way flowing with the world? Like you said, getting through the ego world :P Great insights

  18. Posted

    4 minutes ago, Nahm said:

    Meditate for truth, and truth will set you free, beyond selfish, selfless. 

    So what should I do with situations like this? Where I want to meditate to help me calm down for an event, or become anxious over something. Where I want to meditate to help me for a specific instance?

  21. Posted

    49 minutes ago, Preetom said:

    And yet paradoxically true meditation is not regarded as an action in the first place.

     

     

    So meditation is not an action, it's a being, it's a selflessness state? It's not something we can do, it's some we are?

    The meditation I did today is not true meditation then. It is when periodically clearing my mind and stopping the thoughts. But I was being aware to benefit myself, being aware for a return, for a better mark. Not for being? I've done it all wrong haha.

    Ultimately. I need to stop manipulating my meditation sessions into benefiting me. 

  22. Posted

    Hello all, and I hope you are having a lovely day

    So today I had an exam. Before I left off for the exam, I did my daily meditation to help me calm down and focus for it. I focused on awareness since I thought this could help me with my exam where awareness was key (by increasing my observation of everything). It was also to calm me down, and clear my mind of any worries.

    But I felt like I was in a paradox. I felt like I was using my meditation habit rather than selflessly doing it. I felt like I wanted an actual return from meditation and not in the sense of self-improvement results but more like "if I meditate now, I will do better in the exam" which to me seems ego since I only care about me?.

    Quesitons

    Is meditation egoistic? Is it about "me me me"? Do I meditate for my egoistic needs? If the answer is no, then why do I meditate, could improving ones self be egoistic since I am improving "me". Could self-actualized hide some aspects of egoism that I need to be aware of?

    By all means I am not criticizing or telling anybody to stop meditation or self-improvement works. I will carry on until I die :) I hope this post wasn't negative

     

  23. Posted

    Best way to motivate myself is using the Sedona method. Leo talks about it when talking about resistance.

    The method includes asking  these questions (below) to yourself. This will, ultimately end your resistance and increase productivity. It's quite an amazing how these simple questions can make a huge difference. If you can't answer them, it's fine. You can answer no but keep on looping it and asking the same questions until your resistance is gone:

    - Could I let it go (let go of the resistance to do an activity)

    - Would I like to let it go?

    - When would I like to let it go

    - Could I get excited about the activity/motivation

    Or, you could *just do it*. DO IT. Nike. Close all thoughts of the activity or motivation, don't overthink, and just do what needs to be done.

    I prefer the Sedona method :P

    Goodluck my friend!

  24. Posted

    Sometimes our days become so busy. A western life really does rob your awareness of ego, life, and nature. Do you notice when your breathing? We never realize that we are alive and we are part of one unit, one whole, rather than just our little world. It's why It' so important to take a step back in life and observe nature. I've been doing this a lot. Whenever I am too busy, stressed, anxious or tired, I breath and become aware that I am alive and I am one with the universe.

    Maybe take a step back for a min and become aware of breathing :)

  25. Posted

    The past is an opportunity to learn form our mistakes, so don't dismiss or shun them. Observe them and be them! Accept that the past happened and the past is only the past. The present is the most important! :P

    You've haven't lost progress! You need to stay positive and see all the great things you have done, which you can see since you're better than the past.

    Yeah it feels shitty to go back into the state, but you know what's worst? Staying in the state! Please remember that the past doesn't define you, and only the present does! Think positively and keep on trying. Suffering is the most valuable lesson and it will leave you a scar, a scar that will change you forever.

    Homeostasis will not last forever, only time will change it!

    Goodluck! Please don't lose hope! Stay positive! :)